Help me to help someone (under 18) as a friend

We don’t know any details about you or the person you are seeking to support, so we can’t be specific with you, but you will find here some general guidance and suggestions to review. Please first take note of the following important information about the guidance provided here, by pressing the button.

We also want you to be safe online, so here is a link to the SAMARITANS resources that specifically covers “Guidance on staying safe online, co-designed by young people with lived experience of self-harm and suicidal feelings and experience of supporting others at risk”.

If that person needs help urgently then either encourage them to contact one of the following teams for immediate advice, or if appropriate then you can contact one of these teams to determine a way forward:

You are here because you are concerned about someone as a friend.

There are many things you can do to help them. 

Below you will find information about resources and teams that can really help you to help them. Just as the person in difficulty will respond to and value different forms of information so will you. So we have therefore categorised these as teams that you can talk to; things you can read; things you can listen to; things you can watch; things you can suggest they do and mobile apps that can help you. We also include all the websites we reference throughout our website. 

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However you decide to support this person, we would always urge you to advise them to talk to someone, it’s Why Talking Fixes. Talking with someone who is there to support them can guide them most effectively to positive solutions and positive outcomes. 

Oh and don’t forget yourself too. It’s a difficult time for you too, so we have also included some resources to help you go about helping yourself. Click the button below.

Here are some suggestions for materials that may help you as a friend to help them

We would always urge you to encourage them to talk to someone too – it’s Why Talking Fixes. Please tell them that talking with someone who is there to support them can guide them most effectively to positive solutions and positive outcomes.  

We don’t know exactly how they feel but some of these groups may be able to help you to help them.

Contact one of these 

Click one of these images – for helplines, text lines or online support.

We don’t know exactly how they feel but some of these reading materials may help you to help them.

Have a read of these

More reading:

Click the bookmark below to see a list of other reading options that may be of value covering: ‘Suicidal thoughts‘, ‘Listening‘, as well as General advice and specific scenarios such as ‘Supporting someone who self harms’. 

It also includes some recommended books to read.

We don’t know exactly how they feel but some of these listening materials may help you to help them.

Have a listen to these

More listening:

Click the headphones below to see more options that may be of value covering: ‘Suicidal thoughts‘.

It also includes useful Podcast sites.

We don’t know exactly how they feel but some of these video resources below may help you to help them.

Take a look at these 

5 tips to help you deal with your friend’s mental illness

Supporting someone with a mental health problem

Starting a conversation when you are worried about them

More watching:

Click the video icon below to see more videos that may be of value covering: ‘Suicidal thoughts‘, ‘Coping techniques‘,  as well as General help and specific scenarios such as ‘Self harm’.

We don’t know exactly how they feel but some of these groups or activities may be useful to recommend to them.

Join in one of these 

There are many societies and groups that they can join or things that they can do to get active and get out. For us here in Derbyshire/Nottinghamshire look at the following that you may be able to suggest to them to inspire them (for other locations you will need to do some research on the internet for options in your local area).

Click the images below to see documents with groups, organisations and clubs listed with their purpose and contact details.

If you know of any other groups, clubs, organisations or activities that you would recommend then do let us know (use our Contact us form) so that we can review them and add them to the list. 

Mental Health and Wellbeing
Support
 Groups and Clubs
Things to do in Ilkeston and
the surrounding areas

Things to do in Derby and Derbyshire

Things to do in Nottingham and Nottinghamshire

Apps for mobile phones/tablets that can help you

For Apps appropriate for the person you are seeking to help, see the list of Apps in the “Help me” person under 18 page.

Stay Alive

Stay Alive

This app is a pocket suicide prevention resource packed full of useful information and tools to help you stay safe in crisis. You can use it if you are having thoughts of suicide or if you are concerned about someone else who may be considering suicide.

Click the mobile for more info

Combined Minds

Combined Minds

Combined  Minds is an app developed for teenage mental health charity stem4 by Dr Nihara Krause, Consultant Clinical Psychologist, to help families and friends support young people with their mental health.

Click the mobile for more info

Check in

Check In

The Check-in app was designed by Beyond Blue and Two Bulls in consultation with young people to help take the fear out of having a conversation with a friend who might be struggling. 

This app provides building blocks for how you would approach your friend and gives you a confidence boost to know what to do if your friend does need support.

Click the mobile for more info

More Apps

To see more info about Apps (including those listed here and many more),  click any of the images below to visit Papyrus (Ochra), NHS (Apps library) and CAMHS (Apps page).

The Papyrus link also provides App ratings.

Here are websites that we reference throughout our site (and more).

 

If relevant to you please go and visit their websites.

The organisations’ websites that we reference throughout our site are shown in the desktop versions of our website. To see the images/logos and to be able to click through to an organisation’s website please view this page on our WTF website on your windows/Mac desktop. 

We would like to acknowledge our appreciation to these organisations for their fantastic work and permission to reference them.

On your mobile, please see the CAMHS website referenced below.

Websites we referenced

Below are the websites we have referenced and signposted throughout our own website. We would like to acknowledge our appreciation to these organisations for their fantastic work and permission (where requested) to reference them.

Click any of the images/logos below to go through to their websites.

On tablet please use landscape view to see the images/logos of the organisations.

Comprehensive guide to other websites

Below is a comprehensive curated list of websites with descriptions (including many of the ones we have referenced).  Click the image to see them.

Looking after yourself

This is a difficult time for you as you are seeking to help someone who you feel needs some support and guidance.

If you’re supporting someone make time for yourself (have a bath and lock the door so you’re not disturbed, do some baking, read a book, phone a friend) get some fresh air whenever you can eat regular meals and drink plenty of water, even if you don’t feel like it. You need to be physically well yourself to be able to help anyone else

Here are some resources that give very good advice on how you can look after yourself too at this difficult time. Whilst their focus may be on a particular situation, the advice given is valuable for many different types of situations that you may be dealing with.

Remember, “you cannot pour from an empty cup” (Jo Garvey)

Press the ‘ Hide page ‘ button to go quickly to ‘google.co.uk‘.

 

For great advice (from Childline) on covering

your tracks, click  ‘ Cover tracks ‘ button

                                                                                                                                       

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Important information

Just need to let you know that all materials referenced below are to help you to help yourself or to help you to help someone else and that Will Garvey Trust Foundation cannot be responsible for their content or use. Here we provide links (signposts) for you, for example to other websites, videos and podcasts provided by other organisations and groups. Please use the information and resources responsibly and review any policies or disclaimers applicable at the referenced sites.

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Important information

Just need to let you know that all materials referenced below are to help you to help someone and that Will Garvey Trust Foundation cannot be responsible for their content or use. Here we provide links (signposts) for you, for example to other websites, videos and podcasts provided by other organisations and groups. Please use the information and resources responsibly and review any policies or disclaimers applicable at the referenced sites.